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A good man is a gift
to all who know him- He`s dependable like the sunrise, because his goodness spring from inner strength not outward circumstances. A good man spreads happiness everywhere he goes, and he leaves everyone he meets feeling a little better than they did before. He`s a pleasure to be around, an inspiration in good times and bad, a gift for all seasons... "He`s a good man! create your own visited states map or check out these Google Hacks. The Golden Rule" (Matthew 7:12) *Be what you want others to be. *Say what you want others to say to you. *Love like you want to be loved. *Live like you want others to live around you. *Be faithful because youwant others to be faithful to you. *Sing like you want our singing to be. *Be as faithful in worshipas you want your children to be. *Serve like you want to be served. *Smile like you want others to smile around you. *Care for others because you need others to forgive you. *Be there for others because some day you will need others to be there for you. *Strengthen others and those around you will become your strength. *Be Christ like and those around you willbe Christ like too. *Rejoice in the Lord and those around you will rejoice...... "Much Luv" Rip "Nut_as_Pnut" 8/12/03 My lil brother may god bless you! A Soulful Relationship by Ronald McFadden If you`re not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep eyes open and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don`t let lust , desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure fro m others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and dont fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isnt really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, youve got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can`t take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can`t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won`t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).> Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can`t always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don`t try to control one another. Learn each other`s family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don`t put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion. "Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think." The grass withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God stands forever. Isaiah 40:8 Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight? Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary. The only difference between `United` and `Untied` is where you put the I. "A word of encouragement can make the difference between giving up or going on." |
