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Is there really a difference between true love and puppy love? If so what is it? How do you know if you truly love someone?

There are levels of love, even for adults. When you date someone for a while, and you're getting along and everything is great, that's the puppylove stage. But it's not until that one defining moment, that one connection, that it becomes a real, deep kind of love. It might be when the both of you realize you feel the same way about a passionate topic, or you realize you need to be next to this person all the time. That's when the real love kicks in. Just my 2 cents.

I agree with both of you ladies. I also wanted to add that I do think it has something to do with where you yourself are in life and how comfortable you are in your own skin. For instance, my last relationship was totally different from the relationship I'm in now, mainly because I AM so different...more mature, stronger, aware, etc. In my last relationship I was completely taken advantage of, I mean don't get me wrong the guy is a sexist jerk [[that's not how I usually refer to him btw, just trying to remain civil, lol]], but I also recognize that I allowed him to sort of walk all over me because I was in such a vulnerable time in my life, NOW?? heh, *mira ver*...will never happen. My current bf is the complete opposite by nature (which helps and adds to the dynamic of our relationship) but somehow I feel like it's the energy I put out that attracted someone like him...am I making any sense? I'll end it here for now...

CLOSED

Female, Age Private, Chicago, IL

I believe that you have reached true love when you and your love one is in a room and nothing has to be said to feel comfortable. When you start thinking about your love one's feeling before yours. When all you have to do is think about that person and it brings and it bring a smile to your face. When you feel all giddy inside knowing that in a few hours you will be able to be in his arms again.

You know you found someone special wen u cud jes sit next to dem en share silence together..I've done dat b4.

love is washing someones dirty underwear for years and years...


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atl-n-tica

Female, 21, Atlanta, GA

well i have to say that some of you have good points but fortunately we are all different people and have different points of view in everything, and well the way i see it is that there are definetely levels of love. I believe that there is a difference between loving some one and being IN love with someone, i also believe that you dont just fall in love, you learn to fall in love. Most relationships start out of attraction or lust and later on is when everything changes and all the things that annoyed you about the other person all of a sudden become cute or unnoticeable... Love is when you care about that other person so much that if something happened to him/her you would be very upset but being IN love is if the same thing happened to that person you wish it would of happened to you instead.

Amen to that...I couldn't have said it better!!!

When it comes to love I think there are a lot of people who don't understand it. Some claim to be "in love" but there not. Love is a form of sacrifice, When you're in love all you want is that persons happiness ... even if sometimes that happiness isn't w/ you.

I was in love with a guy who didn't love me back, he loved someone else but I was okay w/ that ... why? because I loved him and all I cared about was his happiness. I'm not gonna lie and say it didn't hurt, 'cause it did, but knowing that he was w/ someone who made him feel what he made me feel .... made it easier to let go

And that's where most people make a mistake b/c they don't want to let go and they end up saying "no one will love you like I do" or "I'm never letting you go" blah blah, but that's not love, that's obsession and there is a fine line between love and obsession and some of us can't tell the diffrence.

Just b/c you're "in love" w/ someone doesn't mean that sometimes you have to let go ... not all "soulmates end up together

True love is spontaneous, its exciting, its adventure. It⿿s about having fun and also knowing when to be serious to get your things in order. But I also believe that love has to be more than just about the two of you. Perhaps caring for a child, planning a business, volunteering, working towards something together. Can you look at the person you love and say these are all the things I want to do, and in return that person will help you do them because they believe in you. And of course that has to be reciprocal between the each of you. You also have to respect each others time, privacy and priorities.

Puppy love, I think that is what more experienced people call a love that is being experienced for the first time. Puppy Love is probably a nice way of saying Foolish Love. What I mean by this, is that someone who is experiencing Puppy Love can be so easily blinded by their feelings that they forego priorities in their life for the person they love. For example, a High School student who doesn't do any homework because they spend all the time with their boyfriend or girlfriend. The end result is poorer grades and long term consequences such as not getting into a good college or a good job, which could eventually lead to the destruction of the relationship. This is a trivial example, but my point is the same, Puppy Love won⿿t become True Love unless you take care of yourself, each other and do the things that will help Puppy Love become True Love.

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Avino

Male, 27, Lynn, MA

True love is spontaneous, its exciting, its adventure. It⿿s about having fun and also knowing when to be serious to get your things in order. But I also believe that love has to be more than just about the two of you. Perhaps caring for a child, planning a business, volunteering, working towards something together. Can you look at the person you love and say these are all the things I want to do, and in return that person will help you do them because they believe in you. And of course that has to be reciprocal between the each of you. You also have to respect each others time, privacy and priorities.

Puppy love, I think that is what more experienced people call a love that is being experienced for the first time. Puppy Love is probably a nice way of saying Foolish Love. What I mean by this, is that someone who is experiencing Puppy Love can be so easily blinded by their feelings that they forego priorities in their life for the person they love. For example, a High School s
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