Roberto_Benitez1's Blog

Have you ever watched the movie played by Will Smith called "Pursuit of Happiness" ? This alone is a great influential film for all dads. It is one of my favorite movies today, that resembles the kind of person I am.

Growing up my father had a good influence on me, because he was a good disciplinarian and he would motivate me so much. He was like a best friend and I learned alot about confidence through him. I always watched how he lived confidently, and was outgoing with others. I learned that he never had fear for much and was a risk taker just like me. So when I think back at how he raised me, I try to do the best in giving my child what I experienced from my dad growing up with a little extra that I can.

Today times are different and kids are more advanced growing up too fast for their age. It's either technology, TV, food that these kids feed on that allows them to change so rapidly.

One of the important things is to continue to grow spiritually with your child. When you stop growing as a person, you do not allow your child to ever learn the meaning of growth and progress. What you do around your child will influence their behavior and future. I recommend always be a role model and do what you preach.
If you play a role stick by that role. Kids learn and dissect things very easily. So you sure want to avoid doing anything negative around them.

There are so many great stories I have heard about kids who were not raised by their parents, or did not have a mom or dad in their life.. or were abandoned, and they still managed to make something out of themselves. I view these as a success story. While America focuses so much how later these kids in these circumstances end up being swept by the life of the streets in life, many have done better than the kids who were sent off to elite level schools, or raised by wealthy parents.

It all relies on the kids upbringing and what influence that special person, hero or role model has had in their life.

I personally have seen good kids turn bad, as well as bad kids turn good. It's funny how things workout, but all one can do is just groom these kids the right way so they can have a bright future and learn the importance of surviving on their own one day.

Peace.... Love... Happiness

Father's Day is a day of commemoration and celebration of Dad. It is a day to not only honor your father, but all men who have acted as a father figure in your life - whether as Stepfathers, Uncles, Grandfathers, or "Big Brothers." Being a parent is one of the most rewarding yet challenging jobs you can have. I give credit to alot of single parents out there and this is why I wanted to share this blog with you all.

Many people today don't understand the responsibility of being a dad. Whether you are a soon to be Dad, or a step dad you will enjoy the journey of parenting. Way before I ever became the primary custodian parent of my child, I made sure I was involved as much in her life. I learned that communication with a child is one of the most important factors a parent needs to have in order to establish a successful parenting trait. From this simple motive there becomes good connection with you and your child.

Throughout my experience of being a parent I was able to learn so much about myself and how I am capable to prove to others that not only women can get the job done in raising kids. I would motivate myself to go that extra mile as if I were jogging in one of my workouts to change certain difficult situations involving my child to become a simple solution. The relationship with a child is so beautiful especially when you learn that they tend to need you for the comfort and love you provide for them.

When I was young I was always impressed when I watched dads pushing a stroller around with their kids, or the dad actually taking their child to a doctor's appointment. I would find this odd. I never in the world would have ever thought of myself in those same shoes. Here I am. A fulltime dad with multitasking capabilities of making ends meet and making my dreams with my career all come into play. There is nothing like having a daughter, and being "Daddy's little Princess", but I truly love it. I remember how bonding my dad was with my little sisters when I was growing up. Now, I know the real feeling of it.

One of the subjects a friend of mine and I had was how today minors are having kids. It is sad, at such a young age these young teenagers have not grown up into adulthood, and do not know the importance of raising themselves yet. I would say for those young ones to always make it a point to take responsibility, and be prepared to grow up as a person. It can be difficult at times but your child should be the change in your life to inspire you to step up to the plate and do better for yourself and your seed. Never stop! Showing affection, asking questions, sharing your world, and getting to know your child - these are the building blocks to a strong relationship.

How a father spends his time tells his children what's important to him. If you always seem to busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say. This is something I myself am working hard on managing with. With the hectic schedule of projects going on in my life, I always remind myself what is the most important? My child is the most important project for me to grow and do a good job in building her future. This is what bring me back to a reality check and settle things down with my schedules to be sure I can spend it more with my kid.

I would recommend for those fathers out there who get really busy and realize they are not spending much time with their kids due to schedule. make sure you give yourself reminders and focus on what are the most important things that have value and mean everything to you. Treasuring children often means sacrificing other things, but it is important to spend time with your children. Kids grow up so quickly. Missed opportunities are forever lost. Trust me on this one, because I have seen how fast my child has grown and it's just the beginning of "growing pains".

Make goals that can allow you to establish a foundation to build a strong family. The key to being a good dad is not just financially supporting a kid, but the most is educating and spending time with a child as they grow. Teaching the values to life, your culture, and allowing them to learn our world. It is like being a mentor. When you have a mentor you become guided with the steps needed to allow you to reach your goals.

Remember that money is not everything to life. If you support your child financially but rarely spend time with them, then there is a problem. Make it an effort to spend as much time with your child and instill some of your knowledge in their lives. When they grow up you will be grateful for being apart of their growth and that special piece they gained from you.

TO BE CONTINUED........

FATHERS DAY CONTEST COMING SOON.