SirSin's Blog

A question was posed to me today I will answer it my best.

Q: is there a vanilla side to the handsome man? Your profile  tells only of your lifestyle involvement, etc I guess i'm just curious about the person you are outside of D/s

A: You bring up a good point. 

I had thought upon writting my profile (as well as the blog pages)  that I DID NOT  go over my explicit experience in the D/s community.  I did not go into it much at all because time & experience are all  relative.  I was only trying to describing me. As a person, as a man, the "tick of my clock" so to speak. However now I can see how what I wrote can me construed differently.

So I hope the paragraphs below help to add an additional more cohesive layer, paint a fuller picture as to how I have described myself  thus far.

However: There is a point of contention: What is  "my vanilla side"...

hmm I don't know off hand, but let me start with this:

I am black/cuban from brooklyn new york.  My family is close knit, very affectionate and supportive of each other. I've long been known as the "freak" of the family (but from some of the giggles from my step pa - i think my mom might have been as well) . I have 2 brothers both younger. They my dawgs. We are each well adjusted and doin our own thing . We all hug and all that family shit. Lots o luv in my fams house.They love me but they love me cuz I love me. and them.

A funny side note. My lil brother is about 24 and we never talked about the specifics of how I get down. He came by my house a couple of months ago and noticed a book on my book shelf.

"Screw The Roses-Give me the thorns"

He takes the book of the shelf and says "oh word playa , I wanted to read this" I tell him "sure just dont get it dirty" with a mock scowl on my face. we both laugh then proceed to set up the xbox 360.

Haha so I guess he  is exploring his own path. (It must be in the blood) LOL.

My family is very open about everything. We accept each other and our quirks, flaws, strengths etc.

Once a month or so I go to my parents house in queens, and my mother and I get tipsy me vodka her henessy. My rastafarian father smokes a bit and we talk/argue/laugh about politics, life,religion and anything else that comes to mind.

I am a father of 2 brilliant and talented teenage children neither live with me but we are as close as 3 pees in a pod. (My daughter was born with a brown and green eye and a brown eye) (yeah she's gonna be trouble)*smile*

I love to dance, and I can, I used to want to be a choreographer as a child, I draw and paint for fun, and I read everything Ican get my hands on. I pride myself on my cooking skills and I love to have "vanilla" dinner parties. You know of the pay per view boxing, UFC type of thing, and of course bar-b-ques in the summer etc, Family coming by for drinks laffs and fun.  I usually have a new band or group or singer or dj  I  want them to listen to .

I am a self employed Business & Technology Strategist. I deal with clients daily (small and medium size business. ) I'm not rich, I've been better,  been worse.But I'm fine,  I don't go hungry and my bills get paid.

I have a perverse dark sense of humor, and I can laugh at almost anything. I can be very goofy at times. I'm sarcastic, playful and my wit is sharpened daily.

So my vanilla side you hmm if thats not it..... I don't think I have one,

I think I am "well woven".  all of my parts, dimensions, dynamics, or specifically the threads of my personality are interdependant.

I am me, unabashedly, unashamed. however dependant on the circumstances I am the Businessman, Host, Gentleman, Cook, Artist, Brain, mischevious kid, Dancer, Bastard, Mentor, bully, Father, brother, friend. etc..  and as proud as I am of those traits or any other hat that I may wear.

I am just as proud of the fact that I am individual. and free.

Ok  thisbegs the question ..why is this brother writting all of this ...

Because..its really nothing, its not my life story, this and anything else that I may share a nothing more than drops in the pan.

SO I am free to share , I am free of concern about what any one may think of me.

One day I will have an opportunity to share things of greater weight.  That is when I find that "right" woman. And with her I would share just how full my heart can get, how much I can give. And the fact that . what I have written here is nothing compared to what I have in store for her.

See - i tried to do the whole vanilla thing .. but my mind finds the gutter time and time again.

:)

I saw this on someones profile as the background.. I could'nt help myself. Just the cutest!!!!

It seems that I may have not explained the intent of my previous post well enough.

For me (and I say this not as an egoist nor egotisticaly) when it comes to my approach to a woman, there is nothing other than my hard limits that I won't do.

A submissive woman may feel or believe truly in her heart of hearts that she can/cannot do something, or somethings... only to find that in actuality for what ever reason, (lack of experience, mindset, confidence or lack there of, etc), that she WONT.

She may say "CAN'T" but this is a 1:1 translation of "WON'T"

So I have found that I achieve better success if I take "can - cannot - can't" scenerios out of the equation. Unless that is if its a necessary lesson which we would BOTH benefit from.

I have had consistent & continious success with satisfying a myriad of womans wants,desires and quirks, covering all aspects of the emotional & physical spectrum by working in this fashion. SO I say with no disrespect, actually with the utmost reverence.

If a woman with whom I am involved with believes she can or can't do something - its fundamentally irrelevant.

The true truth is: "Few of us know the full extent of our ability & strengths".

I focus on a womans expression of specific wants whatever they may be. I task myself with insuring through guidence, patience and my own conviction that the woman with whom I am caring for succeeds in attaining her wants. No matter how far off it may seem.

This process undeniable, indelibly imparts strength and confidence to my female ward.

Her success is my success.

When it comes to us, our kinks, fetishes and such..

I am not as interested in what a woman feels she "can" do as I am with what she feels she "wants" to do.

"Can" will always be undone by can't.

"Wants" are special, impervious to rational, they live outside of reality at times.

Some have said that my profile is a bit cryptic, so I will post here some answers to questions that have been posed to me;

Q:   Well tell me about yourself asides the riddles and proverbs contained in your profile.

A:   I am a Dominant man who has no confidence issues. I know who I am . I accept my strengths as well as my weaknesses and flaws as all that makes me who I am today, and I like me. I am not conceited..I am just maturely sure.

      I have a personal revulsion towards most other men. Simply because I see most other men, complacent and satisfied with their average-ness. Content with who & where they are in life and not striving to be better.

     I am proud to be one of the few who won't lie to a friend (not even to spare their feelings) . If feelings get hurt through bringing to light the truth, I make sure that my shoulder is there to support them.

    I pride myself on my intellect. I'm not the "knuckle head type" however if my fam or those close to me need me to be, I can get gully & stir with the best of them.

   I like nice things/the good life and I like for those in my life to have them as well, so I am generous with my time and my money to the deserving few. I work to make sure those in my circle dont have to struggle as much. I am no "do boy" or sugar dad, but I do like to "help" deserving people.

   I've been considered sophisticated yet very silly. Some ask me why I'm never serious, others tell me I think to much. I love to laugh, and make others laugh. On the other hand I am a thinker, who loves to talk & socialize & ponders the secrets of the universe daily. I am down to earth, and like to "pull people out of there shells"-----

   When I was young I grew up considering myself "freaky". As a man I come to define myself more precisely. I enjoy mostly everything but being able to give pleasure.  This "begs the question "What does pleasure mean?". We all know it is differnet on many levels for each of us. Pleasure is relative. I as a Dominant  man I enjoy being the caretaker of a womans mental, emotional, physically needs. Being in such a position...is very powerful & satisfying to me. I have spent my life learning and working to understand what pleasures there are to give and recieve in this world. Often a teacher - always a student) I pride myself in taking the intimate responsibility seriously when I am with a woman.  I must gain an understanding from all sides what pleasure means to her as an individual.

   I am an overachiever of sorts in this area. SO having been around the block - so to speak - I know what I like, I know what I luv. In whatever shape form or fashion. It is simply:

To be responsible for smiles, tears,shivers, shudders, and the frequent curling of toes..

*smile*---------That being said.give me some feedback