Wheres The Vanilla? - SirSin's Blog

A question was posed to me today I will answer it my best.

Q: is there a vanilla side to the handsome man? Your profile  tells only of your lifestyle involvement, etc I guess i'm just curious about the person you are outside of D/s

A: You bring up a good point. 

I had thought upon writting my profile (as well as the blog pages)  that I DID NOT  go over my explicit experience in the D/s community.  I did not go into it much at all because time & experience are all  relative.  I was only trying to describing me. As a person, as a man, the "tick of my clock" so to speak. However now I can see how what I wrote can me construed differently.

So I hope the paragraphs below help to add an additional more cohesive layer, paint a fuller picture as to how I have described myself  thus far.

However: There is a point of contention: What is  "my vanilla side"...

hmm I don't know off hand, but let me start with this:

I am black/cuban from brooklyn new york.  My family is close knit, very affectionate and supportive of each other. I've long been known as the "freak" of the family (but from some of the giggles from my step pa - i think my mom might have been as well) . I have 2 brothers both younger. They my dawgs. We are each well adjusted and doin our own thing . We all hug and all that family shit. Lots o luv in my fams house.They love me but they love me cuz I love me. and them.

A funny side note. My lil brother is about 24 and we never talked about the specifics of how I get down. He came by my house a couple of months ago and noticed a book on my book shelf.

"Screw The Roses-Give me the thorns"

He takes the book of the shelf and says "oh word playa , I wanted to read this" I tell him "sure just dont get it dirty" with a mock scowl on my face. we both laugh then proceed to set up the xbox 360.

Haha so I guess he  is exploring his own path. (It must be in the blood) LOL.

My family is very open about everything. We accept each other and our quirks, flaws, strengths etc.

Once a month or so I go to my parents house in queens, and my mother and I get tipsy me vodka her henessy. My rastafarian father smokes a bit and we talk/argue/laugh about politics, life,religion and anything else that comes to mind.

I am a father of 2 brilliant and talented teenage children neither live with me but we are as close as 3 pees in a pod. (My daughter was born with a brown and green eye and a brown eye) (yeah she's gonna be trouble)*smile*

I love to dance, and I can, I used to want to be a choreographer as a child, I draw and paint for fun, and I read everything Ican get my hands on. I pride myself on my cooking skills and I love to have "vanilla" dinner parties. You know of the pay per view boxing, UFC type of thing, and of course bar-b-ques in the summer etc, Family coming by for drinks laffs and fun.  I usually have a new band or group or singer or dj  I  want them to listen to .

I am a self employed Business & Technology Strategist. I deal with clients daily (small and medium size business. ) I'm not rich, I've been better,  been worse.But I'm fine,  I don't go hungry and my bills get paid.

I have a perverse dark sense of humor, and I can laugh at almost anything. I can be very goofy at times. I'm sarcastic, playful and my wit is sharpened daily.

So my vanilla side you hmm if thats not it..... I don't think I have one,

I think I am "well woven".  all of my parts, dimensions, dynamics, or specifically the threads of my personality are interdependant.

I am me, unabashedly, unashamed. however dependant on the circumstances I am the Businessman, Host, Gentleman, Cook, Artist, Brain, mischevious kid, Dancer, Bastard, Mentor, bully, Father, brother, friend. etc..  and as proud as I am of those traits or any other hat that I may wear.

I am just as proud of the fact that I am individual. and free.

Ok  thisbegs the question ..why is this brother writting all of this ...

Because..its really nothing, its not my life story, this and anything else that I may share a nothing more than drops in the pan.

SO I am free to share , I am free of concern about what any one may think of me.

One day I will have an opportunity to share things of greater weight.  That is when I find that "right" woman. And with her I would share just how full my heart can get, how much I can give. And the fact that . what I have written here is nothing compared to what I have in store for her.

See - i tried to do the whole vanilla thing .. but my mind finds the gutter time and time again.

:)